Episode #83 Imposter Series Part 6: Why are you here? - Caroline Flanagan

Episode #83 Imposter Series Part 6: Why are you here?

Have you ever been in the thick of a challenge as you try to reach your goal, and asked yourself: why am I here? Why am I putting myself through this? If yes, this episode on ‘why are you here’ is for you.

It’s a common question amongst my clients as they battle with their desire to succeed, their fear of failure and the inevitable discomfort of rising to their potential. Sometimes the frustration goes further and before you know it, they are questioning everything:

  • Why did I choose this career/role/industry?
  • I didn’t actually choose this, I just did it because it was the obvious next step/ it was what everyone else was doing/ my parents expected

The problem with this type of thinking is that it makes the challenge you’re facing so much harder to overcome. It undermines your confidence in your own decisions at the exact time when you need to go all in on the task and have your own back.

In this episode I explain why being able to answer the question “why am I here?” with, “I chose this” is a much better strategy for getting through tough times. Understanding what motivated the decisions that brought you here will help you move away from the debilitating thought “I shouldn’t be here” towards the infinitely more empowering and effective “I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be”.

In this episode:

  1. Why it’s important to be able to answer the question: “Why am I here?”
  2. What is your why and what does it do?
  3. Examples of “why” that are impacting your decisions right now
  4. How to start exploring your why

Mentioned in this episode:

  • Podcast episode #43: Living Your Why
  • Book: Be The First: People of Colour, Imposter Syndrome and the Struggle to Succeed in a White World, which is published on 26th February 2021, and is available to preorder here


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Caroline, I can’t thank you enough for the help you gave me while starting to think of family planning. Your level-headed approach to some of the things I was panicking about has put everything into perspective. Not to mention that talking through and planning how to run my company single-handedly with a child was invaluable. I really appreciate having the after-session documents to work through in my own time and have been referring to them frequently. I cannot recommend a Babyproof Your Life session highly enough when starting to think about children – everyone should do this! Many thanks again.

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